Has social media completed changed what the word “dating” means?
The label “dating” was used when you went on a few dates with someone and you were seen walking around holding hands. Now dating consists of constantly texting and appearing in the significant other’s Instagram page. How come the first in-person interaction with someone is not actually the first time we get to know them. How did infidelity change from meeting up with someone else, to secret snap chat conversation that got deleted after 4 seconds. And how come when the breakup of the so called “couple” finally happens, they never truly disappear from your lives.
Slide into her DMs
Facebook Message her
Our generation has moved from telling someone you like them and asking them on a date, to hiding behind a screen and making awkward small talk until someone finally says they are interested. There are so many ways to be in contact that this adds an even bigger level of difficulty to start the process. What if they send the cat eye emoji: 😻instead of this emoji:😍…does that mean that they like you but aren’t ready to commit? And what if he sends a 4 seconds snap that says “ lets hang out”, do you take it seriously or do you brush it off because they didn’t have the courage to write it in a text. The whole process of “liking someone” is just so much more twisted because we cant always decipher what is meant in these subtle hints.
Not only does social media take away the true meaning of dating, it also takes away part of the fun. Instead of going on dates and getting to know someone, we automatically Facebook stalk someone we think is cute and learn everything about them. If we are lucky they look better than their profile picture.
We can know what music that they like and where they went over the weekend and by the time we are done stalking we pretty much decided if they are still worth pursuing. When you finally start talking and going on dates there is no need to “get to know each other” because we know the base information. And then it just become awkward when you know their dog’s name when they didn’t even tell you had a dog (has no one els experienced this.. awkward.)
Cyber Cheating is officially its on category of cheating nowadays. What constitutes as cheating now? Liking a photo on Instagram, snap chatting someone inappropriately, or just plain texting someone you shouldn’t be. There are so many ways for infidelity to occur that it seems like its almost unavoidable. That theory may just be a pessimistic college senior talking- but it seems that cheating occurs more just because its so much easier to get away with it – the snap chats go away after a few seconds and the text conversations can be deleted. Its even hard to label this type of cheating because what if the partner has never even physically met up with the other person. Would that mean its an emotional affair then? Would it just be easier if they had a physical affair that way it was easier to handle? Is that the main problem- our generation likes things to be quicker and easier and that is why we rely so heavily on social media… but I digress.
You just broke up with someone (whether it was from cyber cheating or not) and you want to avoid them at all costs and just get them out of sight, out of mind. But OH WAIT you follow them and their friends on every form of social media. You still get to see what they are having for dinner, what bar they are going to, and how they are taking the break up. Even if you try blocking your ex… there are so many more reminders and temptations to stalk them or their friends/relatives. Before social media we would have been able to break up and avoid the person at all costs and get over them peacefully. But now it becomes a race to get over faster and if the other person finds someone new first, it’s the worst thing in the world. You stalk your ex’s new girlfriend, then you somehow end up stalking your ex’s girlfriend’s brother.
A lot of the issues with dating in this generation are definitely from the choices we make because a lot of the struggles can be avoided but it just becomes so easy to text instead of talk in person, or send a racy snap chat, and even stay hung up on your ex. Removing ourselves from our phones and social media is easier said than done, but sometimes when we accidentally like someone’s Instagram from 104 weeks back and justify it as flirting…it may be time to put the phone down.