I know that this may sound crazy, but it is true. My parents were expecting me to be a boy.
Now hear me out… My parents were told that their first child was going to be a boy based on the way I was “sitting” in my mom’s womb. They were very excited for a boy. My dad was one of five boys, and my mom had three older brothers. They had the knowledge and experience they thought they needed to raise a boy and began brainstorming all about what a boy needed. They picked out a name, bought a lot of boy clothes, decorations, etc. And on February 17 of 1996, I surprised the hell out of my parents.
I hear this story every year on my birthday, but my favorite part of this whole fiasco, was what my dad blurted out when he heard the shocking news and saw me wrapped in a pink blanket instead of a blue one: “Holy sh*t. I have to pay for a wedding!”
What a welcome, right? I mean who doesn’t want to be seen as a financial burden from the moment they meet their parents?! My dad and I still laugh all the time about it, especially when I remind him how expensive it is to raise a girl.
I know it is cliché and expected for every little girl growing up, but I’ve dreamed of my wedding since a very young age. And I partially blame this story, as I am reminded every year that my parents will be paying for a wedding, whether they were ready for it or not.
Growing up in a digital age, the ways of dreaming of our wedding day has changed dramatically. This fascination has become a commodity in many different forms. Think Bride Wars, 27 Dresses, Say Yes to the Dress, etc. etc. etc. Not to mention Pinterest. I feel like every Pinterest user has their own Wedding Board as relevant content is ENDLESS on Pinterest.
Even though I have not been an active user since high school, I still look back every once in a while. Now, going through my old Pinterest boards is just as cringe-worthy as going through my old Facebook statuses, but alas it is fun! Hilarious to see what trends my 13-16-year-old self thought I wanted for my ~big~ day. What color palettes, what kind of ring, what kind of dress, what kind of venue, etc. etc.
Because I outgrew Pinterest, I found a new way to satisfy my day-dreaming needs on Instagram. With hundreds and hundreds of different accounts to follow, my inspiration options are endless. I follow an un-godly amount of these: HowHeAsked, The Knot, JuneBugWeddings, BHLDN Weddings, etc. to just name a few. I know some of these are cheesy but they post beautiful photos and stories of how couples have met, their story, etc. and I’m a huge fan of giving myself a dose of love in today’s world.
Anyways, 21 years of planning and dreaming hasn’t gotten me anywhere close to knowing what I want. I really have no idea. Randy hasn’t helped. Kate and Anne taught me the importance of keeping my MOH, or maid of honor, on my good side and why I should never EVER have a video montage. And a lot of the time, the accounts I follow on Instagram have really only shown me what I don’t want, which is a good thing! Knowing what you don’t want gets you to the answers- at least that’s what I keep telling myself.
Despite being so unsure on a lot of what will make that big day so special, there is at least two things that I know are absolutely necessary for my wedding day. An incredible photographer and videographer. As I have a lot of cousins and older high school friends are getting married, every single one of them has said that it was one of the best days of their lives, but they don’t remember a lot of it. Maybe that’s partly because of the drinking, but mostly because of the craziness, the blur, and the whirlwind of the day.
As one of the biggest days and (most expensive days) of your lives, you should have it documented. Not just so that you can share it on your profiles, but so you can save the memories of it. You should have it to show your kids and grandkids, but mostly for yourselves so that you and your spouse can remember your perfect day as much as you can. Even though you probably think I’m crazy, I’m not the only one recommending. Apparently in 2012, 98% of all newlyweds recommended future couples to have a professional videographer. These photos and videos help viewers remember the laughs, tears, vows, and incredible bond people form when two families become one. And come on: a picture is worth a thousand words- just think about the story a video can tell!
Social media and the internet has changed how people plan, shop for, and experience weddings. Wedding or bridal magazines aren’t good enough anymore, and planning your wedding can be done from the convenience of your home and laptop. A ton of companies keep creating apps or planning services for on the go as 90% of couples use mobile devices to plan.
There have been rising trends catered to the Wedding experience, like a hashtag for the day so that people can share their memories and they can all be found in one spot. Another example, First Look videos…. To go against all the superstitious omens, we grew up with.
But the change in this industry doesn’t just benefit the customers or ones celebrating the newlyweds. It also benefits the catering companies, the venues, the florists, the bridal shops, photographers, etc.
This digital era has given endless opportunities for small companies to expand their businesses. Photographers and videographers are just a few examples. Instagram is the perfect platform for entrepreneurs to showcase their talent and work and to market themselves to new clients. Expanding their brand to thousands is much easier in this day and age with hashtags, tagging, locations, and the Explore Page and it’s given people the ability to find clients all over the world.
A lot of these photographers and videographers fill my Instagram feed and I often find myself tearing up to strangers’ vows in Hillside. Here are a couple of examples to help explain my obsession.
I hope you liked my blog, can dabble in my obsession, and appreciate how the digital age has benefited the ~love~ industry.